Divorce Announcements: Formal Goodbyes

After you’ve decided to get a divorce, the next hardest step might be trying to figure out how to tell people about your divorce. While your divorce is technically your business, eventually people will start to catch on and be curious. So, you might want to get a jump on things and let your loved ones know what’s coming down the pipe. Divorce announcements are an option that many divorcees might explore, especially the more lighthearted ones. But, how do you approach it? And what do you say to the people around you to show that you’re okay?

Divorce Announcements: Spreading the Word

 Know What You Want to Say

The first and most apparent thing to think about when making divorce announcements is what to say. This will help avoid the pressure and stress that can come with creating one on-the-spot. Keeping it simple might seem like a suitable option, but it helps to not have it be too simple. Only saying “so-and-so and I are getting a divorce” leaves a lot of room for questions that you might not want to answer, especially to strangers. However, including something like “I appreciate the support but don’t wish to talk about it further right now”can help prevent this. Now, people will know what is going on and that you don’t want to talk about it, letting you open up when you feel comfortable to do so.

How To Tell People

Knowing what to say is one part of divorce announcements. Howyou tell people is another part to consider. In today’s age, you have more ways to share the news than ever before. For example, social media allows for you to spread the message to your followers (most of who will be your friends and family) with just one post. This is especially helpful if you worry about how many people you’ll have to tell. However, face-to-face is usually the preferred method. It’s the hardest, but it’s much more “personal” than a mass message, especially for close friends and family.

Who Should You Tell ?

Finally, the last thing to consider for divorce announcements is who to tell. If you’ve just started your divorce, you might want to only tell those very close to you. This is totally normal! Dealing with other people’s opinions along with your divorce can be too much to handle. As your divorce goes on, you can start to tell more people if you begin to feel more comfortable. However, if you are a more private person, there’s nothing wrong with only telling your closest friends and family.

In the end, you get to choose how you talk about your divorce. You get to control what you say, how you say it, and who you tell it too when it comes to your divorce. Using the strategies outlined here can help make that tough process all the more doable.

School Post-Divorce: Moving On

For some, school is their entire lives. For many others, however, going to school was never a thought. Or if it was, they put in their time and got out. But what about going to school post-divorce? Is this new chapter of your life sparking an interest in a certain field? Perhaps your new single lifestyle should be accompanying a new career. If this is the case for you, consider these tips when going back to school.

School Post-Divorce: Making Positive Changes

Get Up to Date

If you’ve been out of school for a while, your chunky laptop might not make the cut any more. Going to school post-divorce might require you to treat yourself to some new technology! New developments in tech mean more accessible textbooks and classroom resources. Tablets, laptops, and convertible laptops are great tools to set your new class off just right.

Know Your Comfort Zone

Going to school may be out of your comfort zone. It’s refreshing to push yourself and your boundaries. It’s important to remember, however, that your life is much different than the last time you were in school. For your first semester back to school post-divorce, make sure you don’t overload it.

Focus on Finances

Keep in mind that school post-divorce costs just as much as it did pre-divorce. While financial aid, grants, and scholarships are available, they rarely cover every expense you have. Keep these financial responsibilities in mind when deciding to go back to school.

Be Confident

If you’re returning to school post-divorce, there’s a good chance you will be slightly older than your fresh-faced peers. Don’t worry! Know that you deserve your spot in the class just as much as everyone else. You can connect with new people and groups on campus, which might be a good idea for those in need of new hobbies.

You deserve the benefit of going to school post-divorce. If you are trying to decide if this is right for you, you might start with class you have a genuine interest in. Classes like these could include the arts or music. Do whatever you feel will serve yourself best.

Post-Divorce Employment: Considerations Before Looking

Divorce leads to changes in how your day-to-day life operates. One of the areas that can include is employment. You might’ve been a stay-at-home parent during your marriage, but you’re finding that your new financial situation means you need a better source of income. No matter the motive, it can be stressful to think about job hunting. To help make this process easier, we have put together a few things to consider before looking for post-divorce employment…

Post-Divorce Employment: Considerations Before Looking

Figure Out What You Want To Do

The first thing to consider when thinking about post-divorce employment is what kind of job you’d like to pursue. Are you looking for something similar to what you used to have, or something entirely new? Do you need to work full-time, or would part-time make ends meet? Make sure to consider things related to your divorce as well. For instance, you might want flexible hours so you can spend more time with your children. You might also want to consider if a job has benefits, such as healthcare, if you find yourself without after the divorce. Ultimately, this is your livelihood, so it’s important to take time to really consider what you’re looking for rather than rushing right back in.

Start To Search

Once you decide on your post-divorce employment path, the next step is to begin searching. Luckily, there’s plenty of online job boardsthese days to use to look. To maximize your chances of finding a quality position, it helps to cast a wide net across several sites. Additionally, make sure your resume is up-to-date. Take time and customize it to fit your wants in a new career. If you’re applying in a field you’re familiar with, make sure to highlight your hands-on experience and skills. For new industries you might be exploring, use your enthusiasm for the job and show how experience you have from other fields translates into the one you’re interested in.

Prepare For Interviews

Once you begin looking for post-divorce employment, you will want to prepare yourself for potential interviews. Planning ahead of time can help reduce the anxiety and stress that comes with an interview. Instead, you’ll be able to focus on making your great first impression to your potential new boss. Think about which skills and experience you want to emphasize, and let your personality shine through instead of being shrouded in anxiety. Furthermore, be upfront about your employment gap. Whether you were a stay-at-home parent, or took some time off during the divorce— it helps to give your potential employer some context. Sharing a few details can feel a bit awkward, but, not only will most interviewers be understanding, they’ll also appreciate the honesty.

Looking for post-divorce employment can be difficult. However, the end result of finding that right job for you makes it worth it. Having patience and using some of the tips here can help make sure you get that new dream job.

Organized Co-Parenting Calendar: How to Make it and Move on

When it comes to co-parenting, scheduling is one of the keys to success. But, that’s not to say it comes easy. Co-parenting successfully is extremely difficult, especially depending on the details of your divorce. But, by creating an organized co-parenting calendar, you can make your lives that much easier. Co-parenting with your ex may feel difficult right now, and it may always seem that way, but putting it all in writing? Makes the plan much easier to deal with.

Organized Co-Parenting Calendar: How to Make it and Move on

Plan Ahead

Think of all those events you want your child there for; Grandma’s birthday, your favorite sport’s game of the year, a school play… Whatever it may be. Think of all these things before you and the other co-parent meet, and put it in writing. Ask the other parent to do the same. You want to essentially have made your part of the schedule before you two ever come together. This should include any engagements you have, as well as the child, such as science fairs, sports games, business trips, travel, or the like. Then, when you come together, you can compare and build a cohesive schedule to both go off of.

organized co-parenting calendar

Don’t Overbook

Another key to an organized co-parenting calendar is to be careful not to overbook. Often times, after going through a divorce, we want to make up for the fact that we are spending less time with our kid. So it’s not uncommon to overcompensate by agreeing to do anything and everything. But overbooking can leave you tired, stretched to the max, and ultimately unreliable. When you overbook yourself, you will at some point have to cancel or miss something. But the last thing you want to do is create a pattern of not fulfilling your parenting responsibilities. So, it’s best to only agree to what you know you will be able to do.

Set a Reminder

No matter how many times you talk about it, or write it in colored ink on the calendar, it’s hard to juggle your schedule. During your marriage, you and your spouse probably maintained a system for the schedule. You knew who was picking who up at what time. And if not, you probably talked throughout the day so that someone always remembered. But since your divorce, these things can be harder to keep up with. Therefore, set a reminder on your phone for those visits or events you planned with your kid. We’d all like to think we’ll remember easily. However, sometimes it’s just plain difficult. So, make a plan, set reminders, and stick to it. As we’ve said, you don’t want to create a pattern of not fulfilling your duties as a parent.

Keep multiple copies and allow for it flex a bit

We can’t account for every little bump in the road. So, take your agreement seriously, print and sign a copy for the each of you, but understand that things will happen. On your end, as well as theirs, there’s always the potential of something that might alter your agreement. Maybe one of you ends up with an illness, wrecks your car, gets a big promotion, or something of the like. Allow for your agreement to move just a bit if that time comes. But, understand that these occurrences should be discussed between both of you.

The key to an organized co-parenting calendar, is collaboration. Co-parenting, as well as planning, is difficult to do. But when you commit, take the time, and prioritize your child, it’s amazing what you can accomplish together.